Sunday, February 18, 2018

What Not To Say On A First Date

First dates can be nerve-racking, but don't lose your cool and say something that will make your date ask for the check quicker than Speedy Gonzales can run. Click the photo for tips on how to flirt effortlessly.

What not to say on a first date seems like a no brainer, right? Not coming off desperate, arrogant, crazy or boring seems pretty straight-forward.

My friend is seeing a new guy she’s psyched about. Actually, more like was psyched about. She had butterflies, she was nervous–the whole bit.

But things didn’t exactly go as she had hoped from a guy she thought was funny, smart and good-looking. In the span of four hours, the guy told her his model ex-girlfriend is insanely gorgeous and then proceeded to talk up the ex, asked her how many dates she’d been on since her last relationship, and asked her if she likes to be spanked.

I have another friend whose first date asked if he wanted to meet the parents.

Here’s a general list of things you should avoid saying or talking about on the first few dates:

  • Big one first… EXES: Do not mention your ex, especially the way Mister “My Ex is Gorgeous” put it. Talking about your ex in any way will make it seem as if you’re not over the relationship, and it’s just not something you should get into when you’re first starting to get to know someone.
  • Divulging too much information: Got a fetish? Going through a family crisis? Just got out of rehab? In major debt? Keep it to yourself for now.
  • Asking boring questions: “So what’s your favorite TV show?” Really? That’s the best you can do? Ask about hobbies and passions; that’ll strike up a much more engaging conversation.
  • How your biological clock is ticking and you want to settle down ASAP: Depending on the conversation, it’s sometimes appropriate to talk about your future and what you want out of life, but telling your first date that you want kids will scare him/her away and will make you look desperate. Slow it down a bit and let him/her get to know you first.

Want to know how to flirt and create sexual attraction with that new person you’re into during your first date? It’s definitely an art form, especially because you have to concentrate on avoiding the things I mentioned above so you don’t come off as a weirdo.

What’s the strangest thing someone has told you or asked you on the first (or one of the first) dates?

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