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What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back

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"I was able to get my ex boyfriend back. You can, too!"

Every day, we get emails from women who ask about what they can do to get their boyfriend back.  After a break up, it can be very hard to think straight and knowing what to do to get things right is almost impossible to do on your own.  Are you feeling like everything you do pushes your ex away further? You’re probably wondering, “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?”

 

The following are a few ideas that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

“What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?” – Do This First

The first thing to do is realize that if you are feeling overly anxious about  trying to get him back, then you are probably causing your ex to pull away.  It is human nature in general to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and it will only make matters worse.

The real trick is to use human nature to your advantage.  There are certain psychological triggers that will make people behave in certain ways.  We will discuss the triggers that can be used to get your ex boyfriend back in a moment.

“Help Me Get My Ex Boyfriend Back” – Some Questions to Ask Yourself

Before going any further, you have to take an honest look at how things are going.

  • Are you calling your ex a lot?
  • Are you constantly writing him e-mails?
  • How often are you text messaging him?
  • Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you?
  • Have you tried to make him feel bad for leaving you?

 

If you find yourself doing any of these things, you must stop. While on the surface it seems to be the logical thing to do, you’re actually making the situation worse.  You may think you’re just trying to convince him to come back, but what is actually happening is that he probably feels like he’s being smothered.

“Help Me Get My Ex Boyfriend Back” – Step 3

The next step for those wanting help to “get my ex boyfriend back” is breaking contact off for a while.  The reality is that your emotions are too strong at the moment.  Even small, seemingly harmless encounters with your ex have a very good chance of going sour.  Rather than making a mistake that will ruin your chances with him forever, it is best to cut yourself off from him for now.

During this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life.  This will help to keep you from focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a very challenging time and will require discipline to prevent you from feeling the urge to contact him.

“How Will This Help Me Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?”

Without you pursuing him, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about you. This is actually something that can work in your favor.  Now your ex is in a position to actually miss you, which was not possible during the time when he was feeling smothered.

“Tell Me About the Psychological Triggers That Will Get My Ex Boyfriend Back to Me…”

 

December 8, 2009 by Tony Mann  
Filed under Get a Boyfriend Back

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